http://dancingwithpain.com/my-day/ Fri, 27 Jan 2012 14:03:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 http://dancingwithpain.com/my-day/comment-page-1/#comment-10167 Thomai in L.A. Sun, 08 Nov 2009 18:59:14 +0000 http://dancingwithpain.com/?p=1708#comment-10167 As the birth mother of a boy and spirit mom of a boy, (both are young men now) I know that teaching healthy boundaries is important for everyone. Starting as young as 18 months, that for instance, if I am tickling them and they say, "No, stop!" I immediately stop and back off.  If they really want to be tickled, they have to say, "tickle me, tickle me".  It's the little exercises like that & actual self defense courses that make the difference. I've taught women and girls in classes, and boys while raising them. 1st line of defense, stay or get away from trouble 2nd line of defense, verbal 3rd line of defense, physical Everyone can benefit from understanding healthy boundaries, in business, personal life, and as part of society.   Nowadays, many mother's  instruct their children to "use your words" . It stops children from thinking that crying, screaming, whining is the best way to get what they want; it teaches them to articulate their feelings more clearly. As the birth mother of a boy and spirit mom of a boy, (both are young men now) I know that teaching healthy boundaries is important for everyone.
Starting as young as 18 months, that for instance, if I am tickling them and they say, “No, stop!” I immediately stop and back off.  If they really want to be tickled, they have to say, “tickle me, tickle me”.  It’s the little exercises like that & actual self defense courses that make the difference.
I’ve taught women and girls in classes, and boys while raising them.
1st line of defense, stay or get away from trouble
2nd line of defense, verbal
3rd line of defense, physical
Everyone can benefit from understanding healthy boundaries, in business, personal life, and as part of society.   Nowadays, many mother’s  instruct their children to “use your words” . It stops children from thinking that crying, screaming, whining is the best way to get what they want; it teaches them to articulate their feelings more clearly.

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