My Three Pet Peeves

By: Loolwa Khazzoom, Founder, Dancing with Pain

September 6th, 2016 • Travel Dance HealPrint Print

My three pet peeves:

1. Dog owners who let their dogs run around without a leash, in areas that have leash laws, and who act like you’re the asshole when you ask them to honor the law and leash their dogs. Similar peeve is government agencies who do nothing to enforce the law, making it a joke and encouraging people to break the law.

2. People who are not mindful of and/or who do not honor the body space of those around them, giving little to no buffer and/or moving abruptly, effectively acting energetically invasive.

3. Drivers who are so concerned with speed that they put the lives of other drivers and pedestrians in danger.

There have been judgmental, effectively cruel people who have responded to my struggles with these various matters not by having compassion for me and not by honoring me for continuing to put myself out there instead of give up and isolate, but by saying something along the lines of how “bad things keep happening” to me and either implicitly or explicitly saying that I therefore have bad luck, bad karma, etc. Actually it’s the same stupid thing over and over and over again – namely, irresponsible people walking through the world and making it unsafe for others. The more sensitive we are, the more we’ll notice it and feel it. Given that I can end up, and have ended up, in bed from pain as a result of these various encounters, you bet I notice and remember them. And these people are everywhere, so of course I encounter them all over the damn place, day-in, day-out.

It’s a constant struggle, and I honestly don’t know what to do. I cannot educate people on an individual level – it’s exhausting, considering that it happens nonstop. And yet when it happens, and I don’t say anything, I feel so powerless and weak.

My little cousin in Israel recently commented that it’s human nature to drive fast and drunk and so forth, despite people knowing that they can hurt other people. That was interesting to me. I think that part of my extraordinary power, and the reason why I’ve been able to achieve the impossible, is that I do not accept the unacceptable. While that is amazing on the one hand, opening the door to all kinds of possibility, it is super challenging on the other hand, because then there is constant angst. That angst, of course, is what creates the change. The oyster is irritated by the sand and creates the pearl. Which happens to be the meaning of my name – Pearl in a Million.

Anyhow. I feel an article or six coming on. But them’s my preliminary musings.

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